I as a person give advice daily to people all over the place. I absolutely enjoy this aspect of being who I am. Just because these people look to me for guidance. It's nice to know that your opinion is wanted and well received. Today though, I had a friend ask me for advice on a topic that seemed to be something I have yet to talk about to anyone. Which is Long Distance Relationships.
With the increase we have in technology daily. I believe that a Long Distance Relationship is something that can easily be tackled. Skype, Texting, Phone Calls, and Facebook make relationships easier to keep up with and be a involved partner in. Sometimes, we forget that these even exist because of the lengths people go to maintain them. Makes these people seem as though they are in the same room most the time. This is great to see happen and I support it. As they are legitimate forms of dating.
We honestly as humans cannot help who we fall in love with. As romantic and sexual attraction are on spectrum's and we ourselves move along that spectrum because each person we meet is different than the last. Thus, we can be different forms of Romantic and Sexual attraction. So, if you meet someone who lives 200 miles away but is absolutely stunning to you based on certain features and aspects. By all means, you may have found the person for you. The internet has made Long Distance Relationships more mainstream than they use to be in the past. Use to be that you'd meet someone and they would move away, if you didn't get a phone number or mailing address. You'd never seem or hear from them again. ONLY because these where the only forms of communication 30 years ago.
Though, tackling the distance barrier can as well be hard. Only because the need for human contact can be rather haunting. It takes time and persistent patience to maintain this type of relationship, because of the lack of contact. You have to work it into your schedule to be honest. You have to work time together like any relationship, but you have to more often because you cannot just go out and see each other at the local club/bar/restaurant. The need to see each other visually is more than a want. You have to make sure you can use the technology available to tackle this. Meaning you Skype went able, you talk on the phone when able, and you even text when able. Just to let the other person know you are willing to go to great lengths to make it work.
That though, can become stale. As it's a constant redundancy that both you and your partner/s have to face. Switch it up! Maybe your partner/s and you people who love video games. This is a great opportunity to play MMOs (Massive Multi-player Online games) together. Or maybe do blogs/vlogs together on various topics/Current Events? These are just a few ways that getting to know your partner can grow into something more. You'll learn more about your partner if you talk about various subjects. As well if you have the opportunity to meet up, you should take it. For this will help with the distance and need for contact.
A long distance relationship should be more about getting to know a person for who they are. That way when you finally do meet. You and your partner/s can hit it off just perfect. It's going to be a trial. I know this all too well. Though, building ways to incorporate time together and learning about your partner/s. That's something I want to stress, because you need to make sure you can let your partner/s know. Know that you are willing to go the extra mile to be in a relationship, because the distance.
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